When a narcissist posts a video about emotional and narcissistic abuse, it’s like a thief teaching a course on home security.

This week, Mark Anthony Stephens shared a reel from Healers of Narcissistic Abuse that depicts a man telling a woman, “You make me lose control.” The text above the video reads, “This is what emotional, narcissistic abuse looks like.” Mark adds his own caption: “Wow so true… Been through this and was freed. 💯 Stay in Christ.”

Let’s be very clear—this isn’t just ironic. It’s performative gaslighting at its finest.

Mark’s use of this video isn’t about healing. It’s about framing. The implication is that he was the victim of the kind of abuse shown in the clip. Yet according to numerous firsthand accounts, medical professionals, legal documents, and his own children’s words, Mark has repeatedly demonstrated the very behaviors this video condemns:

• Telling his son that almond milk is better because “soy makes you gay” (Dr. Rao report)Dr. Rao
• Disrupting youth sports games with politically aggressive friends, causing children to cry and parents to leave in distressRob_Peters_Mark_Stephen…
• Refusing to follow court-ordered medical guidance, and instead having his undernourished son sign a false “contract” denying his diagnosisDr. Rao
• Filming chaos instead of parenting, laughing while his guests yelled vulgarities at children’s sporting eventsRob_Peters_Mark_Stephen…

And now he’s trying to claim he was the one who was abused?

This is classic narcissistic projection: accuse others of what you’ve done, so you can flip the script. The end goal? Reclaim control of the narrative. It’s not about accountability or healing—it’s about perception management.

What Mark doesn’t realize is this: true healing doesn’t require a spotlight. It doesn’t need an audience. It doesn’t ride on hashtags or heart emojis. And it certainly doesn’t look like using faith as a fig leaf while shirking court orders and child support.

If emotional abuse looks like telling someone “you make me lose control,” then what do we call forcing a malnourished child to deny his own diagnosis—just to preserve your ego?

The video may be true. But the caption is a lie.