Mark, you are nearly three years behind on child support. That’s not an oversight. That’s not a clerical error. That’s a choice. You refuse to pay for anything that has to do with actually raising your children—food on the table, a roof over their heads, medical care, school supplies, counseling, stability. The only time you’ll open your wallet is when it benefits you—when it’s for your own fun and games.

Pickleball trips. Driving 36 hours round trip to pick up a dog. Leisure and entertainment somehow always make the budget. But the basics of raising your sons? Never.

This isn’t just financial neglect. It’s a moral and spiritual failing.

What you model to your children is that responsibility is optional, commitment is conditional, and love is something you buy with toys and experiences instead of sacrifice and consistency. You’ve weaponized faith, using God’s name as a shield for your choices, saying “trust me” while lying, denying, abusing, attacking, and flipping victim and offender whenever the truth catches up to you.

Here’s the tragedy: your boys are watching. They are learning. And if this is what being “Godly” looks like—lying, abusing, gaslighting, and dodging accountability—then what foundation are you giving them? You are setting them up to eventually reject not only you now, but you and God permanently. Not because God failed them, but because you did.

Provider? No.
Protector? No.
Man of God? Certainly not.

You’ve positioned yourself as the destroyer—of trust, of stability, of safety, and eventually of their faith if this continues unchecked.

Fun and games don’t raise children. Commitment does. Sacrifice does. Love does. Until you understand that, the only legacy you’re leaving behind is one of destruction.

And to the boys: Don’t hold your breath with your father, but continue to hold your faith in God. He has not failed you, and He never will.