It is easy to post old memories and public declarations of love. It is much harder to do the work required to actually show up for a child. This is about the painful difference between performative love and real parental effort.

Loving the Memory More Than the Work

April 10, 2026
It is easy to post old memories and public declarations of love. It is much harder to do the work required to actually show up for a child. This is about the painful difference between performative love and real parental effort.

Loving the Memory More Than the Work

April 10, 2026

Preaching Against Vanity While Performing It

There is something deeply revealing about a man warning everyone else about vanity while carefully packaging himself into a multi-part video series. Video Series can be viewed at the bottom of this post.

That is what makes Mark’s recent Facebook clips so hard to ignore. Not because the message is profound, but because the contradiction is. He opens with scripture, talks about Ecclesiastes, speaks about vanity being vapor, and warns about chasing the wrong things. Then, almost immediately, the teaching bends back toward the same familiar center: himself.

That is the tell.

This was not a long-form sermon that had to be broken into digestible sections. It was already short. Yet it was still split into a string of mini-clips and posted one after another, moments apart, as if one appearance in the feed was not enough. That is the question worth asking: if the point was truth, why the need for saturation? Why fragment one simple thought into a serial release unless the delivery itself was part of the performance?

Because that is what this reads like: not humility, not reflection, but performance.

He says “all is vanity,” but the format is built for attention. He says truth will stand without defense, but then quickly pivots into the old grievance script: I’ve been lied about too. He invokes Joseph, humiliation, false accusations, vindication, and kingdom language, and somehow the lesson never really leaves his own image behind. The scripture may be ancient, but the strategy feels very modern: say it in pieces, keep the algorithm warm, keep your face in front of people, keep your pain at the center, and call it ministry.

That is the deeper problem here. The message condemns empire-building while behaving like personal brand management. It warns against self-exaltation while subtly recasting the speaker as the righteous sufferer in the middle of the story. It talks about truth, but packages that truth in a way that keeps circling back to one person’s need to be seen as persecuted, misunderstood, and eventually proven right.

That is not new. It is a pattern.

Victimhood has always been one of the safest masks for vanity because it allows a person to appear wounded while still demanding attention. It allows someone to speak as though they are above defending themselves while building entire narratives around the idea that they have been attacked. It lets them sound spiritual while staying self-focused. And that is exactly what these clips feel like: a rehearsed attempt to look persecuted and profound at the same time.

If this were really about God, the speaker would get smaller and the truth would get bigger.

Instead, the opposite happens. The truth becomes a backdrop. The scripture becomes staging. The camera stays close. The clips keep coming. The face remains centered. The message repeats. And once again, the audience is asked to see not simply a man sharing faith, but a man presenting himself as the one who has suffered lies, who has endured betrayal, who stands above the noise, who will be vindicated in the end.

That is not freedom from vanity. That is vanity wearing church clothes.

And maybe that is the most honest question to ask about this whole series:

If the message was truly about escaping vanity, why was it packaged so carefully to feed attention?
If truth does not need defending, why does every road somehow lead back to his personal wounds?
And if the goal was humility, why did it take six or eight clips, posted back-to-back, to say what could have been said once?

Because sometimes the loudest proof of vanity is not what a person condemns.
It is what they cannot stop performing.


Questions He Cannot Preach His Way Around

  1. If proof matters so much to you, where is yours?
  2. Why do you keep talking about vindication as if it already happened, when what people keep seeing is performance instead of evidence?
  3. If the truth is on your side, why does it always arrive as a sermon, a slogan, or a victim monologue instead of a document, a timeline, or a receipt?
  4. Why is “I was lied about” always your headline, but “here is the proof” never seems to be your follow-up?
  5. Why should anyone take your cries for vindication seriously when a licensed child psychiatrist documented that multiple claims in Liam’s so-called “contract” ranged from false to distorted, and that Liam said he was forced to sign it?
  6. If you are so committed to truth, why does the written record already show repeated concerns that your words about food, vaccines, COVID, and health were being absorbed literally by Liam and affecting him?
  7. If everyone else is supposedly smearing you, why do outside witnesses keep describing the same pattern: chaos around you, attention around you, and you standing in the middle of it acting entertained instead of accountable?
  8. Why do you keep borrowing Joseph, Solomon, David, kings, kingdoms, and persecution language to make yourself sound biblically misunderstood when the real question is much simpler: what can you actually prove?
  9. If truth does not need defending, as you say, then why does your image seem to need constant defending, constant reframing, and constant repackaging?
  10. Why break one short thought into a chain of tiny clips posted moments apart unless the goal was not clarity, but repeated visibility?
  11. If vanity is really just vapor, why does so much of your content revolve around your face, your wounds, your story, your persecution, and your eventual vindication?
  12. Why do you speak as though God has cleared your name when the record people can actually read raises more questions than your videos ever answer?
  13. If you have been so thoroughly wronged, where are the findings, the records, the emails, the evaluations, the court-backed facts that plainly support your version without the need for theatrics?
  14. Why does every road in your teaching somehow lead back to the same destination: you as the injured one, you as the righteous one, you as the one waiting to be revealed?
  15. At what point does endless talk of “proof” and “vindication” stop sounding confident and start sounding like a substitute for actually having either?

A man who actually has vindication in hand does not have to keep advertising it.
He shows it.
You keep preaching proof like a man trying to replace documents with drama.

Why spend so much time preaching about truth, proof, and vindication while avoiding the very assessments that could have given you all three?


If the allegations were really false, those evaluations were not the threat. They were the opportunity.


So why treat the path to seeing your son like something to evade instead of something to complete?

It is hard to keep shouting “I was lied about” while sidestepping the one kind of proof that does not come from your own mouth.

If the truth was really your ally, you would have met it in the evaluation room.